Emotions Are Our Friend, Not Our Enemy

11 05 2010

On our path to discover more of who we are, we learn that fear is what causes pain and suffering and love brings healing and blessings. Although this is true, it can create a negative pattern. Each time we feel low, we start to judge ourselves for our low emotions. This will in turn create a spiraling effect of more intense anger, fear or depression deepening our self judgement. When life happens, it doesn’t matter who we are. We all go through shifts and waves. We feel low at times and through that move through the wave and come back to our more happy, inspirational self. With the great shift toward oneness and inspiration happening on the planet, a lot of forget that it’s a spiritual journey. We don’t need to be “perfect” all the time. I love what Osho, a great spiritual guide has to say about this.

“Sadness can become a very enriching experience. You have to work on it. It is easy to escape from your sadness — and all relationships ordinarily are escapes; one simply goes on avoiding it. And it is always there underneath… the current continues. Even in relationship it erupts many times. Then one tends to throw the responsibility on the other, but it is not the real thing. It is your loneliness, your own sadness. You have not settled with it yet, so it will erupt again and again.”

When my spiritual journey began my life created tremendous waves at times. Some of the waves were so huge that when it hit the shore, an explosion occurred. This created emotional waves so forceful that it took my breath away. I felt out of control. But it was through my emotions that I was able to rise out of the ashes, see the sun again and move to higher mountain.

I love to use nature as my teacher. Nature is perfect, simple and always there. There is no asking, wanting. It just is. Nature experiences waves and goes for the ride. It understands how pointless it is to resist. When the storm settles so do the trees, grass, animals and birds.

The key  that helped me through my emotional rides was walking through nature and experiencing presence. The energy I felt from the trees around me, the soft flow of the stream next to me or the harmonious song of the birds above me brought me to the perfection of that moment. I noticed my emotions as well, as if I was looking from the outside in and realized that my emotions are not me. They are just a wave that I was experiencing.

When we are experiencing an eruption in our life, the point is not to see how happy we can be despite what’s going on. The point is to move with the wave, allow whatever is coming up to come up and become extremely present. In the presence we can begin to see what our life situation is really all about,move through it and begin a new story. Through our emotional waves we can learn more of what serves us and what no longer we wish to own. We can begin to write a new story and create waves that are adventurous instead of paralyzing. We can learn the blessings of each wave, each experience and each emotion we have. Our emotions are what gives us depth. There are traps though we must become aware of.

The problem lies with not feeling emotional, but getting stuck there. If we tend to go through something and remain stuck in a negative pattern then our emotions took us over. We victimize ourselves instead of moving beyond the situation and our feelings. What this ends up doing is moving into our body in the form of disease or moves into our life experience in the form of more of those life experiences that brought us to that negative spiral to begin with.

If we learn to use our emotions efficiently then we can shift, grow and create a new pattern and a new life. How do we do this?

The key is presence! When you feel emotional become very still. Tune into your body and feel where in your body the emotion is. Notice the talk your mind is creating. Become the observer of your own body and mind. Do this for at least 5-10 minutes. When you are complete, write down your experience. By bringing attention to your body and mind you’ll be amazed at what you’ll learn and how you can shift in that moment. Presence brings to you that immediate relief. When you are fully present you realize how perfect everything truly is. It is from this place that you can shift and begin the healing process, creating nothing short of miracles.




2 responses

11 05 2010
Glen Depke

Well done!

12 05 2010

Hi Esther,

Those words are well spoken and brings such peace. I am doing some inspired writing, and Emotions are on my list. It’s taken me a long time to deal with mine’s, i can truly say now, i am more in tune.

Thanks for helping to heal,

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